Check frequently asked questions about Divorce
Open Question: If I am still married in the UK, can I marry someone else in Australia?
Were both in OZ on a 457 visa. And my ex is playing up with the divorce. Cheers.
8 Feb 2012, 3:57 am | click here to view more
Open Question: He immotionally cheated me for another women...5 yrs but i cant forget (anyone who is good at insulting people?
married for 5 yrs.. (arrange). Just in beginning of marriage, 5 yr ago he openly insulted me for another lady (his friends wife). They both were flirting with each other & he didnt paid any attention to me at every. Moreover, that lady commented on me every the time when he is around (saying mean things about my looks) & he ignore everything knowingly. So, out of upsetness, I asked him, why is this happenning & if she is not nice to me, than why are we visiting them. He replied why i am blaming her, hearing this i receive mad as he was totally avoiding the issue & when i could look their understanding clearly. Than he argued more favouring her & asked me to keep close. Than he called them home & other pal & told them that i doubt them. we had more arguement & at last i slapped him for insulting me...(in between i tried suicide & he didnt showed any concern).. so the immotional bond was broken as he hurted my feelings deeply.. my life changed after that.. in my heart i hate him & he make me to hate him everyday by fliritng with other girls & keep comparing me to them.. he has made my life hell... i cant live him as i never wanted to be married twice (& if i live, the thought of breaking my morals will ahunt me for relax of life, i know myself)... so now living with him is also toungh... i want to end their understanding..i want to insult that bi*tch for once & my hubsnad also... as the insult i faced out of his lack of adore for me initially, still haunt me.. & now he treat me very mean.. i just want to insult him same way inf ront of that couple so that the confidence he is using out of his affair with her, should end. i am planning to go to face that couple again with some other handsome guy with me & pretending we share same understanding as she had with my husband, i believe this way i will insult my husband among his friends as he did to me for that lady... he showed his concern for her but he completely blamed me (just bcz i was less attractive than her - lookwise).. i know this will work as i did same to his other crushes.. a girl from a cafe, he was pal with (always going & chating to her & when go with him, she giggle at me & act as if she is his wife) so one day, i took one of my pal to cafe & acted same she act with my hubby & she receive the idea that she is easy option, & i can also have good guy.. so she just was ashamed of herself.. than i explained it my hubby & his face also went dull from bright hearing that i visited with a guy pal.. now he never go to that cafe..as people know his wife also cheat him.. i think, if i do same with that lady also, it should work.. i want more ideas tp take that feeling off my head..& put in his head that the mind game he started to torture me is over... & now every his friends think i am also not in so much adore with him.. (thats what his game is - to show that i sob for him & he is having every ladies atention) ... that homewrecker bit*ch is so glad.. i want to take that grin off her face & tell her how much it hurt when some1 take your husbands affection from you ( should i send my sexy girl pal to flirt with her husband as well)??? what do you suggest??? any more ideas to end that hateful feeling.. i dont want to die thinking their heart are still one.. bcz thats how my hubby act since 5 yrs & i have been on antidepressant for this period for this reason only... now i want to play back ... doest matter how far i have to go... (but dont tell me DIVORCE... thats not an option , dont even say i am stoping you to answer as divorce is only way.dont irritate me with those answers.. please..) i know their are creative ideas to insult epople without seperating.. i want to know those ideas???
8 Feb 2012, 3:55 am | click here to view more
Open Question: what should i do for the best? he has divorce for many years but they still live together.?
we adore each other. But he is still living with her even that they already divorce for many years. this condition make me feel complicated, really, i don't know how to accept that. I try so many times to talk with him and i even ask him to break up, but he never say yes, he is not even feel sorry for this. And now, i think maybe i really have to give up and go away, but i don't know if my decision is right or wrong, please tell me i am doing the right thing. He is so good to me sometimes but he has a very bad temper too, he is yelling every one, bit his wife, battle, and control my life too. he wants me live as the way he wants and i should obey. I am sleepy...
8 Feb 2012, 3:48 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Is this a normal cultural phenomena for Indian guys to act in such way?
He is a married man,he trapped a divorced lady that had undergone much trauma from past.He makes her believe he is genuine guy who himself is divorced and wants her best interest. He force her to strip in front of the webcam she feels obligated and does it out of adore.As he keeps calling her his wife. When she has done that he starts calling her a slu.t.t.y who.re. and a loser and starts blackmailing her... He starts tarnishing her reputation and name and also puts her nude images and videos on net. My question is how can a person first of every lie he is married, then trap a divorced lady make her believe he loves her and would marry her,then tarnish her. Her only fault is to truest him and believe him. It turns out he is married his wife is pregnant he has a 10 year old son and a teenage daughter and she is 14 and that needy girl is physically and mentally challenged. What good did he receive by hurting a already hurt human? His wife supports him as she has seen that single mothers nude images and he has managed to convince his wife that,the women he himself trapped is a s..l.u..tt.y.wh.o.re.. and a homewracker. She knows her husband is a big cheat but still believes him based on the nude videos and photos he has taken of the single mum without her knowledge and constant.... His wife will never leave her husband she loves him to an great extent and she is financially dependent on him...
8 Feb 2012, 3:20 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Should I marry him? ?
My boyfriend and I have been together since I was 15 I'm now 20. We are having a child together her name is navaeh and she will be here in two weeks. Ny ways lately he's been talking about wanting to receive married. Now he is absolutely wonderful we communicate amazingly, have never had an argument and have amazing chemistry, we are opposites but make eachother do better with the different points of views. But my problem is that if something ever went wrong in the future because every relationship has it's problems at some point especially with a child, idk how willing he would be to work on things or to look my point of veiw, I also worry because he used to be an alcoholic and when he gets stressed he sometimes goes on a binge for a couple days but he's good about getting himself back on track. But if the time came that there was a big issue idk if he'd start to drink a lot and I couldn't handle that. I dont want to go through a divorce, So I adore him to death and I'm just wondering if he does propose what's your opinions on me marrying him should I take that chance that we would be able to work it out and handle it if a problem arose, or does it sound doomed or unlikely to work out if we were to receive married?
8 Feb 2012, 2:54 am | click here to view more
Open Question: I think I have depression and anxiety what should I do?
i seem to be prone to depression and anxiety. i am usually ok unless i'm below a lot of stress or something bad happens and then i go into this robot mode of misery and not sleeping or eating well that i can't seem to grasp. i lose interest in mostly everything. recently i found out my parents are divorcing and my mom is still messing around with my stepdad even though he has a gf. my family is every messed up and my job sucks. i've tried zoloft (it works well) but the side effects can be difficult to deal with. i've also tried buspar, xanax, and trazadone. they are not for me as they made me more depressed and feel like a zombie. what should i do and why am i so prone to depression and worrying when others are not?
8 Feb 2012, 2:51 am | click here to view more
Open Question: How can i start my family tree?
I want to start my family tree, my mum has a huge family with 4 brothers and a sister who have every married and divorced numerous times. every of her brothers and sister had different dads (i think), and i want to find out more about her dad (my grandad) who was killed in a home flame set of by another family member. Right now, ive told my mum i want to do one and my friends nan tried to find out more about my family before but she gave up. Is there any good, reliable websites that are free that i can start my family tree on without my parents knowing, incase they dont want me to?
8 Feb 2012, 2:08 am | click here to view more
Open Question: living relationship without marraige?
I am in living relationship with a man for about 2 years,who is already married but not living with his wife.he have one daughter too,firstly he dn used talk to them but for about 1 year but now his wife connected him for their daughter,s future and schooling.he replied he told her I dn want to live you because she left her before but without any paper work or legally.now he daily talks to her daughter and its going on he can not mary me because their would be legal issue in country in the meantime I got pregnant three times but I aborted because legally he cant accept baby we are not married,firstly he want divorce from her then but I can not look she is going to leave him.I dn know what to do?three times I aborted baby but still their is no change.every time my mom helped me to abort I know how she feels.....I aborted because I want to live with him I really adore him and he too.other wise who cares If I give birth to baby or abort it but he helped me every time mentally and financial.firstly my mom and dad supported me to give birth this baby your dad will adopt him infact its difficult because I am from muslim country.but after three abortions my parents are irritated from me and with him their is no chance to receive marry with him.I dn want to leave him and he too I want some solution ,because its in his hand if he want he can live with his family but he can not live without me I really dont know whats happening and what should I do,I want to marry him want to give birth to his kids and want to live happily with him but seems difficult
8 Feb 2012, 2:04 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Any among spouse must not forget the limitations of relationship if wish to live together or be divorced.?
8 Feb 2012, 1:05 am | click here to view more
Open Question: What to do a bout my man and his need to talk to other women?
My husband runs to this other lady every time me and him receive into it or have a disagreement. We actually just got back together two months ago from almost divorcing over a past infidelity of his. We were separated for 6 months and during these times he was messing around with two women. One of them he claimed was nothing to him but something to do and this is the same lady who is an issue. When we got back together I forgave him for his past mistakes and told him to end his friendship with her he agreed but he told me that she said no matter what she is not going anywhere.. He text her and told her and I even called her to tell her to back off. But i kept getting the feeling that they were still secretly talking. I randomly checked his phone and things but never saw any evidence of it so I assumed i was wrong for my assumption. Well we ended up getting new phones and one day we had a really bad battle. Throughout the almost 4 hour battle he kept calling someone and when I asked who he says a male pal of his. So I leave and go to work and check his call log and look that throughout our whole battle he kept calling her. He even called her after I left. When I confronted him on the issue he claims it was about money and that he is just trying to receive some money out of her because she was looking to buy some drugs. I could feel the lies flowing out so I contacted the womans cousin and she tells me that he was with her the day of the argument. I am furious because of him but also because she knows very well that we are married with two kids and has no problem breaking up a family. Well I call him and confront him on it and he admits to it even though he had previously lied about it. He said that he was just down and needed someone to talk to...well we got into again and didn't talk for a long while. Well I looked at his call log and he still contacting this lady. Well when I ask him about it this time he says it was because she was telling him about what happened when I called her cousin and how she doesn't appreciate me getting her involved! Well I don't appreciate her still talking to my husband even though I have informed her several times to leave him alone. Well, he begged for me back and I told him to call her and tell her he would not contact her and not to contact him and also to tell her that he was using her and he did but she acted so chilly about it that I receive the feeling that somehow he told her what to say and that he didn't mean it. I have almost always had these types of problems out of my husband. Later I looked through his email and learned that he was on a dating site. I read every of his messages sent to other women and learned a lot about my husband that I didn't know. He seems to need a lot of attention from women to feel good about who he is. Doesn't seem he can be alone. But I don't understand why another lady would help contribute to breaking up another womans home. this lady is 10 years his senior and is incredibly ugly at that. I assume maybe her self esteem is low.
8 Feb 2012, 1:03 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Why do women(even those in west) always complain?
I accept that in the east, feminism's not so strong and so, there's less gender equality here. But in west, its certainly not so. Women like a lot of special privileges given by the law. For example if a marriage breaks, i.e. if divorce takes place, its the women who gain more(in terms of money) than men. But even after so many things, why do women always complain on men and other things?
8 Feb 2012, 1:02 am | click here to view more
Open Question: My friends and everyone else says We're just gonna end up together?
Now i already have girlfriend so really this is just kinda a random question for me anyway me and my best pal since kindergarten have always been very close as in there is for the most part almost no sercrets between us We can always be 100% truthful with eachother when we need to be We both just jump at the chance to help each other if there is any way to at any time We have both really helped each other out with any nice of "problem" the other had at every in her life i helped her receive over a really bad break up with one boyfriend and another one where the guy cheated on her i even helped her through her parents divorce We both can just openly and proudly just say that we adore each other (as in a close friendship way) We also think very highely of one another always wanting the other to be glad Really thats only part of it every but im just wondering So pretty much based on this do you think me and her can be just friends or do you think that we will end up dating or whatever? And why or whats the reason for your answer?
8 Feb 2012, 12:52 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Rahu in 7th house ...plz help?
My wife is having ketu & sun in lagna... She is virgo rising...whereas rahu in 7th home in pisces...lord of 7th home i.e. jupiter is in 6th home.. she is having Takshak Kal Sarpa Yog in navamsa c is having aries rising with jupiter in lagna, venus in 2nd home in tauraus, sun in 5th home in leo & saturn in libra in seventh home, mars in 12th home with rahu... Currently her jupiter mahadasha is going on with saturn antardasa... from past 5 months we both r staying seprately, just after 4 months from marriage & now her parents wanna divorce... i rad somewhere that people having sun in leo or in 5th home in navamsa like one marriage only.. is this correct ??. Just wanna know kya humara divorce hoga.. is there 2nd marriage chances in her kundali...how is going to b her married & professional life...plz help & guide me.. her DOB : - 13TH OCTOBER,1986 time- 04.50 am place- jamshedpur
8 Feb 2012, 12:51 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Why do some women mess with married men?
My husband runs to this other lady every time me and him receive into it or have a disagreement. We actually just got back together two months ago from almost divorcing over a past infidelity of his. We were separated for 6 months and during these times he was messing around with two women. One of them he claimed was nothing to him but something to do and this is the same lady who is an issue. When we got back together I forgave him for his past mistakes and told him to end his friendship with her he agreed but he told me that she said no matter what she is not going anywhere.. He text her and told her and I even called her to tell her to back off. But i kept getting the feeling that they were still secretly talking. I randomly checked his phone and things but never saw any evidence of it so I assumed i was wrong for my assumption. Well we ended up getting new phones and one day we had a really bad battle. Throughout the almost 4 hour battle he kept calling someone and when I asked who he says a male pal of his. So I leave and go to work and check his call log and look that throughout our whole battle he kept calling her. He even called her after I left. When I confronted him on the issue he claims it was about money and that he is just trying to receive some money out of her because she was looking to buy some drugs. I could feel the lies flowing out so I contacted the womans cousin and she tells me that he was with her the day of the argument. I am furious because of him but also because she knows very well that we are married with two kids and has no problem breaking up a family. Well I call him and confront him on it and he admits to it even though he had previously lied about it. He said that he was just down and needed someone to talk to...well we got into again and didn't talk for a long while. Well I looked at his call log and he still contacting this lady. Well when I ask him about it this time he says it was because she was telling him about what happened when I called her cousin and how she doesn't appreciate me getting her involved! Well I don't appreciate her still talking to my husband even though I have informed her several times to leave him alone. Well, he begged for me back and I told him to call her and tell her he would not contact her and not to contact him and also to tell her that he was using her and he did but she acted so chilly about it that I receive the feeling that somehow he told her what to say and that he didn't mean it. I have almost always had these types of problems out of my husband. Later I looked through his email and learned that he was on a dating site. I read every of his messages sent to other women and learned a lot about my husband that I didn't know. He seems to need a lot of attention from women to feel good about who he is. Doesn't seem he can be alone. But I don't understand why another lady would help contribute to breaking up another womans home. this lady is 10 years his senior and is incredibly ugly at that. I assume maybe her self esteem is low. I am not blaming her but I don't understand why some women are so willing to contribute to the breakup of a family. They are both wrong no matter how you look at it. but I wouldn't want to break up another womans home even if he was calling me. I never put the blame on her...it is them both to me but I know it is more of my husband because he should care more about our family then this
8 Feb 2012, 12:49 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Diane and Matt’s Blended Family....?
Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family. They spent two long, grueling years trying to meet everybody’s needs and although things are far from perfect, they’re doing better. The new blended family has five members. Matt brought two teenage girls into the relationship. He refers to them as his “princesses package deal.” Matt’s first wife divorced him five years ago and no one has seen or heard from her since. She was an artist before the girls were born. Weaving was her passion and her creations were extraordinarily beautiful. After the birth of both girls, she no longer had the time to pursue her weaving. This led to a deep but untreated depression and ultimately led to their divorce. Matt knows he could probably find his ex and take her to court for back child support, but what would be the point? He makes a good living and suspects that she moved to Mexico to do her weaving in the little fishing village they used to visit close Cabo in the early part of their marriage. One princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Amy. She’s 16 and her entire life rotates around school and friends. She has her driver’s license and works six hours a week at Old Navy, where she also spends most of her paycheck. Amy wants to study languages and is already fluent in Spanish and French. The glamour of studying abroad is motivating her to keep her GPA at 3.8 or over with hopes of one day working in Homeland Security as a “code breaker.” The more explosive princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Lori. She’s 14 going on 30. In typical early adolescent flare, her acid tongue lashes out against everyone in the family without regard for the consequences. She calls Amy “little Einstein” while her possess grades are hovering in the C- and D range. Lori is begging for a tattoo. “every I want is a little ink on the tiny of my back,” she pleads. “No one will even ever look it.”Matt is firmly against this, even though Dianne has a tiny rose tattooed on her left ankle. Usually Lori stomps off to her room after one of these arguments. She’ll slam her door and crank up her music, creating tension and frustration throughout the household.Dianne also entered the marriage to Matt with a “package deal” of her possess. Gracie was born three months after Dianne’s husband was killed in Afghanistan. He was career military, as were his brother and his dad. Death was discussed openly, but even so, Dianne’s pregnancy made the shock of his death even more intense. Now Dianne and Gracie are enjoying their new life loving Matt. There’s just one little thing that’s worrying Dianne at this point. Four year old Gracie swears like a sailor! At first, Dianne couldn’t believe her ears. Gracie threw her Barbie down on the floor and yelled, “F***, you’re a bad doll.” Dianne didn’t know what to do, so she did nothing. Maybe she heard it wrong. How could innocent little Gracie know such a vulgar word? Dianne had almost convinced herself that this was just an awkward coincidence when Gracie got frustrated trying to button her jacket. “S***, this is difficult,” said sweet,innocent Gracie. Dianne shuttered when she realized this was no awkward coincidence. When she asked Gracie where she learned those words, Gracie just shrugged. “Lori says them every the time,” Gracie answered, having no idea what she just said. .What is the best way for Amy or Lori to respond to Gracie when she uses vulgarity? .How should Dianne and Matt handle the situation if Gracie uses vulgarity in public?
8 Feb 2012, 12:42 am | click here to view more
Open Question: How to Protect One's Credit (from ex's) BEFORE Divorce is Granted in MD?
My pal and her husband have decided to start the divorce process in MD. She and her husband have a child, but are on pretty amicable terms. My pal knows that in MD (an "at fault" state), the divorce might take time. Her biggest concern is making sure that her finances are made separate from her husbands's ASAP. They have drastically different spending philosophies and she wants to protect her credit. How can she protect her credit NOW? As far as my pal knows, the only way for her to speed up the divorce process is to accuse her ex of cruelty, etc... and for many reasons, she doesn't want to go there.
8 Feb 2012, 12:27 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Texas divorce law, help understanding.?
Okay, my mom is getting a divorce from my step dad. They were married like 4 years and lived together for around 2 years before that. My main question is about the law in Texas about division of property. "The court divides the community property in a just and right manner, meaning that court strives for a fair and equitable distribution of the property. Factors considered by the court in dividing the couple’s assets and debts include their earning capacity." That being said, my mom makes around 100,000 dollars more a year than my step dad. He makes around 20,000 a year (if that) and my mom is a business lady who makes around 180,000 a year. This mooching, parasitic man is trying to receive everything he can out of my mom and doesn't deserve a dime. I was wondering if that could sway a judge to not divide everything equally. They have separate bank accounts but no pre nuptial agreement. What happens to her 401k?
8 Feb 2012, 12:16 am | click here to view more
Open Question: TEXAS Divorce!! Help understanding.?
Okay, my mom is getting a divorce from my step dad. They were married like 4 years and lived together for around 2 years before that. My main question is about the law in Texas about division of property. "The court divides the community property in a just and right manner, meaning that court strives for a fair and equitable distribution of the property. Factors considered by the court in dividing the couple’s assets and debts include their earning capacity." That being said, my mom makes around 100,000 dollars more a year than my step dad. He makes around 20,000 a year (if that) and my mom is a business lady who makes around 180,000 a year. This mooching, parasitic man is trying to receive everything he can out of my mom and doesn't deserve a dime. I was wondering if that could sway a judge to not divide everything equally. They have separate bank accounts but no pre nuptial agreement. What happens to her 401k?
8 Feb 2012, 12:12 am | click here to view more
Open Question: How does one ever get over things like this?
Hey =) I have a big problem and I just want to know how other people manage with these sorts of things, would be nice to receive some advice... P.S. I have been to a councelor etc, I did not become an alcoholic or anything lol I just receive very vulnerable at times and just sob randomly a few days a month... anyway this is the problem: Very long story clip very short: At the age of 10, my brother was nice of very weird and tried to take off my clothes several times, however it never really suceeded...At the age of 12 my parents got divorced...it got this bad that my brother stabbed my mumm in the knee and she almost died of it...He got sent off to england, and 1 year later I followed..I couldn't talk any english, so obviously i wasn't able to make any friends and was on my possess most of the time... End of that year my dadd commited suicide, his parents blaming me for not having been there for him. He was quite troubled due to an accident, so he kept saying that my mumm tried to kill him (which obviously wasn't true because i was there when the accident happened) ... and since then my mom hasn't got the time on her hands at every, she s gone from early morning til tardy at night, i rarely receive to talk to her, have no one really to rely on due to my brother's past and my mumm not having any time...it was very difficult for me to make friends in england due to my lack of languages...anyway now i am nice of passed it, however it didn't just fly by lol i receive unhappy a lot and having a bf who doesn't really care about it doesn't really help either lol...so yea, if anyone has some personal methods they use of how to handle this sadness please do let me know... i am 20 now and still as unhappy as on the first day (only at night though since i dont like to make people worry, so hardly anyone knows)
7 Feb 2012, 9:59 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: In a california divorce is there any way an inheritence can become communal property?
My wife has filed for divorce and she is the only one working, i have been staying home with kids. She has a sizeable inheritence that has been put into 12 mo. cd's for the the last few years. I was just wondering if it mattered or not if she has "turned it over" a few times? She has used some of the money in purchasing a car that i drove and we still possess. Im sure she has used funds from the inheritance in paying bills, holidays.
7 Feb 2012, 9:46 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Am I wrong for thinking my childhood was unjust? Is this why am I kind of a sensitive person?
So I grew up with my parents divorced. My mom left my dad when I was four because she came out of the closet as a lesbian. So she moved out. She is mentally sick (suffers from severe depression, anxiety, pyschosis, suicidal thoughts), and so I wasnt allowed to live with her. My dad was my custodial parent. However, he is mentally sick as well. (it took me 18 years to figure this out, because clearly he wont admit to it). When I was growing up my dad consistently ignored me and was incredibly strict. Obsessed with my success academically. He would make me do 100 math problems a day since I was five years old, and have me reading books 6-8 years over grade level when I was in elementary school. If I did not do the math problems that he assigned to me, he would beat me in the head with his hand or push me against the wall. When I was eating a meal and was too full to finish it, he would grab my neck and push the food down my throat. Sometimes he would take the light out of my room, lock me in and have me be stuck in there until the morning, without a meal. My dad would hti for me like the dumbest reasons. I was not a bad kid. I got great grades, was the star student, but he would consistently tell me I wasnt good enough etc. I wasnt allowed to have fun or anything. I was only allowed to sit in my room and do academic work every day long. (this would be on top of homework). Then he would make me practice violin for hours a day and if I didnt, I would receive punnished. My dad never tried to receive to know me as a kid. He just close himself in his room and never really interacted with me except to order me around. He never even ate meals with me at every. He was always so mad. I grew up in fear of him my whole life up until I was in middle school. I am also an only child. Its also fustrating, because he has been suffering from kidney failure since I was in fifth grade, and has been terminally sick since. (he has been doing dialysis at home since then and is now kidney-less) I have kidney disease as well, but he doesnt want me to go receive check ups for it. My mom had left the state and moved 450 miles away to live with her girlfriend that she met online from another country. She did this when I was seven years old, so I was without a mom for a year and a half. Since she has been back every these years, she has moved in with my grandparents in their apartment, because she cant afford to live on her possess, nor does she have the stability.She has been institutionalized three times since I was born. She was last committed when I was in eighth grade for 2 months. Last year, she threatened to kill my dad after she found out the stuff he did to me every these years. My grandparents tried to put her in an insitution but she refused. She even threatened to kill ME. Its fustrating b/c she doesnt do anything to help herself. She is supposed to take medication for depression, anxiety and high blood pressure, but she doesnt and has not in years. She had breast cancer when I was 6 years old and had a breast removed, but she doesnt receive checked at every. She hasnt been to the doctor in years. (Im now in college 1000 miles away from every this, but its still difficult) Its especially difficult with my dad's illness because he is always in and out of the hospital for his disease and its always a close death situation. I feel like im still searching for approval from my dad and his attention. Which is nice of what I even look when I am dating guys. I feel like sometimes dating guys and being close to them is trying to fill a void from my dad. my dad had such a difficult life. He was put in foster care at 11 months old and separated from his 8 siblings. He grew up in the inner city in poverty and his foster parents passed away by the time he was 16 so he was living on his possess as a teenager working two jobs to support himself. I think the fact that he had an absent dad (his dad left to amsterdam when my dad was born, and never came back), really affected him the relax of his life. I think this is part of why he found it so difficult to connect to me when I was growing up, because he never had a dad to do that to him. its not like im away from every this for good. I still arrive home for break and its back to the craziness. I cant escape it. its fustrating b/c sometimes my dad will be super sweet when I look him. Though he is awkward, its just very weird. Like he just changes like the drop of a cap. Its his mentall illness. So it makes me feel sorry for him and forgive him. Then he just goes back to his old ways. Its also frustrating b/c so many people just judge me and they dont know what I have had to deal with and still have to deal with. A lot of people dont give me a chance. I just feel like my life has so many serious things to it. This and having to deal with racial discrimination as a child (im half black), growing up in an every white town. I was the only black kid in school, and it definitely was not *easy
7 Feb 2012, 9:38 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Could i receive any aid from a cal grant or fafsa if my parents made 90000 this year?
We're a family of four and i'll be the first to attend college.I'm worried we won't be eligible because my mom works two jobs but there never seems to be any money.Plus i'm planning on attending santa barbara city college.Does anyone know if i'll receive aid from that college? Is it possible i could stil receive some aid from a cal grant or fafsa? My parents aren't divorced.my dad works as well and 90,000 is how much they make together.i'm a dependent student. I've never had a job so I can't file taxes but I have been looking and applying
7 Feb 2012, 9:30 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: My parents just got separated? help please!?
Well last night my parents just told me theyre gettign separated. It was totally unexpected, like they werent arguign THAT much.. so i probably would be crying every the time right now, but what happens to me is that it just seems to unrealistic. Like it seems so unreal that my mind wont believe it. But sometimes i think about it and receive a lump in my throat. They are not divorcing, they just need a little time separate. then are just going to play it by year, and be at the home on different nights. When theyre not here they will stay at their friends houses. they dont kno how long it will be, which kinda bugs me. I dont feel like its my fault at every. So my ? is, how do i make it so i can believe what is happening? I kinda want to be unhappy so i know how to deal with it. I want to be able to believe it at every times, and when i do, ho how i deal with it? (i also hav plenty of friends and an awesome core teacher for support. i am also 13.) Shah, what?
7 Feb 2012, 9:23 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: is this normal (perverted father)?
i live with my dad he divorced my mom when i was five,so i dnt have anyone for support.ive noticed when i wa thirteen my dad would check me out in a sneaky weird way i developed early .i noticed he would always want to use the restroom when i was bathing or when i would wear skimpy clothes he would stare at my rear end ,theres times when he just gazes at me its so uncomfortable.once he spanked my butt and i did confront him really pissed.and ive caught him looking at my friends butt or breast.hes always watching porn..ive also stoped wearing tight clothes
7 Feb 2012, 9:22 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Is it a bad decision for me to get married at 18?
I've been dating my boyfriend since the 8th grade - we are now in 12th graduating soon. We are one of those couples that everyone envys - perfect for each other in every way. Everyone thinks that we will be together forever. We are both going to the same university next fall and plan to move in together. We'd like to receive married this summer before we move in together. But though I doubt it'd end in divorce, is it right to receive married still? Everyone acts like its a horrible thing to do, but I think it will be fine. every I hear on the Internet is the bad parts of marrying young. What are the good? Seems like no one remembers those people that have been married 50+ years to their high school love
7 Feb 2012, 9:22 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: I feel somewhat detached?
Hello. I am a 21 year old male. I've felt detached for a long time, in fact its been as long as I can remember. I feel like more of a spectator to life. I don't think I share the same thought patterns as others. I like being alone. I don't have any real friends. I rarely talk with my family. I don't like speaking to people in general. I have been told on occasion times that I have a icy demeanour. I often think that my behaviour is the result of a somewhat traumatic childhood. I narrow it down to two events: My parents divorce when I was 3. And our neighbour frightening me by smiling at me when I was young. Nothing physical or sexual, so I doubt any of these two events qualify as trauma. As 'Emotional' trauma seems to be such an ambiguous and useless definition. Apart from every this, I am an intelligent man, I play chess regularly, I launched a web business last year, and I code scripts for websites. I just don't feel I function as well as other people in social events or other events where empathy is key. Is this anything serious?
7 Feb 2012, 9:21 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Do you think it's a bad choice for me to marry once I graduate?
I've been dating my boyfriend since the 8th grade - we are now in 12th graduating soon. We are one of those couples that everyone envys - perfect for each other in every way. Everyone thinks that we will be together forever. We are both going to the same university next fall and plan to move in together. We'd like to receive married this summer before we move in together. But though I doubt it'd end in divorce, is it right to receive married still? Everyone acts like its a horrible thing to do, but I think it will be fine. every I hear on the Internet is the bad parts of marrying young. What are the good? Seems like no one remembers those people that have been married 50+ years to their high school love
7 Feb 2012, 9:17 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: From the outside, does my childhood really look that bad? is it time to forgive and forget?
So I grew up with my parents divorced. My mom left my dad when I was four because she came out of the closet as a lesbian. So she moved out. She is mentally sick (suffers from severe depression, anxiety, pyschosis, suicidal thoughts), and so I wasnt allowed to live with her. My dad was my custodial parent. However, he is mentally sick as well. (it took me 18 years to figure this out, because clearly he wont admit to it). When I was growing up my dad consistently ignored me and was incredibly strict. Obsessed with my success academically. He would make me do 100 math problems a day since I was five years old, and have me reading books 6-8 years over grade level when I was in elementary school. If I did not do the math problems that he assigned to me, he would beat me in the head with his hand or push me against the wall. When I was eating a meal and was too full to finish it, he would grab my neck and push the food down my throat. Sometimes he would take the light out of my room, lock me in and have me be stuck in there until the morning, without a meal. My dad would hti for me like the dumbest reasons. I was not a bad kid. I got great grades, was the star student, but he would consistently tell me I wasnt good enough etc. I wasnt allowed to have fun or anything. I was only allowed to sit in my room and do academic work every day long. (this would be on top of homework). Then he would make me practice violin for hours a day and if I didnt, I would receive punnished. My dad never tried to receive to know me as a kid. He just close himself in his room and never really interacted with me except to order me around. He never even ate meals with me at every. He was always so mad. I grew up in fear of him my whole life up until I was in middle school. I am also an only child. Its also fustrating, because he has been suffering from kidney failure since I was in fifth grade, and has been terminally sick since. (he has been doing dialysis at home since then and is now kidney-less) I have kidney disease as well, but he doesnt want me to go receive check ups for it. My mom had left the state and moved 450 miles away to live with her girlfriend that she met online from another country. She did this when I was seven years old, so I was without a mom for a year and a half. Since she has been back every these years, she has moved in with my grandparents in their apartment, because she cant afford to live on her possess, nor does she have the stability.She has been institutionalized three times since I was born. She was last committed when I was in eighth grade for 2 months. Last year, she threatened to kill my dad after she found out the stuff he did to me every these years. My grandparents tried to put her in an insitution but she refused. She even threatened to kill ME. Its fustrating b/c she doesnt do anything to help herself. She is supposed to take medication for depression, anxiety and high blood pressure, but she doesnt and has not in years. She had breast cancer when I was 6 years old and had a breast removed, but she doesnt receive checked at every. She hasnt been to the doctor in years. (Im now in college 1000 miles away from every this, but its still difficult) Its especially difficult with my dad's illness because he is always in and out of the hospital for his disease and its always a close death situation. I feel like im still searching for approval from my dad and his attention. Which is nice of what I even look when I am dating guys. I feel like sometimes dating guys and being close to them is trying to fill a void from my dad. my dad had such a difficult life. He was put in foster care at 11 months old and separated from his 8 siblings. He grew up in the inner city in poverty and his foster parents passed away by the time he was 16 so he was living on his possess as a teenager working two jobs to support himself. I think the fact that he had an absent dad (his dad left to amsterdam when my dad was born, and never came back), really affected him the relax of his life. I think this is part of why he found it so difficult to connect to me when I was growing up, because he never had a dad to do that to him. its not like im away from every this for good. I still arrive home for break and its back to the craziness. I cant escape it. its fustrating b/c sometimes my dad will be super sweet when I look him. Though he is awkward, its just very weird. Like he just changes like the drop of a cap. Its his mentall illness. So it makes me feel sorry for him and forgive him. Then he just goes back to his old ways. Its also frustrating b/c so many people just judge me and they dont know what I have had to deal with and still have to deal with. A lot of people dont give me a chance. I just feel like my life has so many serious things to it. This and having to deal with racial discrimination as a child (im half black), growing up in an every white town. I was the only black kid in school, and it definitely was not e *easy
7 Feb 2012, 9:05 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: I Am Looking For My Half Sister & Can Not Find Her On Social Network . What Do I Do ?
I Have A Half Sister On My Fathers Side . Her Mom & My Dad Got A Divorce When She Was 3 & I Have Never Seen Her & My Family Has Not Seen Her Since She Was A Baby !
7 Feb 2012, 9:01 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: In Australian law, how long live together to be seen as de'facto?
My husband and I are divorced. We had a messy spilt and i went to court and got a restraining order against him to receive him out. I then bought my possess home and he had nowhere to live so i gave him a room in the home to snooze in. We have 2 daughters. We snooze in seperate rooms but still go out together because I do money lending and need him to help with my business. Underground money lending. Anyhow, he and I argue a lot so I kicked him out. By law can he receive half my things? We were living together but not sleeping together. Could he claim de'facto and take my belongings?
7 Feb 2012, 9:01 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Is it wrong of me to forgive and forget? could this be why i am such a sensitive person around people?
So I grew up with my parents divorced. My mom left my dad when I was four because she came out of the closet as a lesbian. So she moved out. She is mentally sick (suffers from severe depression, anxiety, pyschosis, suicidal thoughts), and so I wasnt allowed to live with her. My dad was my custodial parent. However, he is mentally sick as well. (it took me 18 years to figure this out, because clearly he wont admit to it). When I was growing up my dad consistently ignored me and was incredibly strict. Obsessed with my success academically. He would make me do 100 math problems a day since I was five years old, and have me reading books 6-8 years over grade level when I was in elementary school. If I did not do the math problems that he assigned to me, he would beat me in the head with his hand or push me against the wall. When I was eating a meal and was too full to finish it, he would grab my neck and push the food down my throat. Sometimes he would take the light out of my room, lock me in and have me be stuck in there until the morning, without a meal. My dad would hti for me like the dumbest reasons. I was not a bad kid. I got great grades, was the star student, but he would consistently tell me I wasnt good enough etc. I wasnt allowed to have fun or anything. I was only allowed to sit in my room and do academic work every day long. (this would be on top of homework). Then he would make me practice violin for hours a day and if I didnt, I would receive punnished. My dad never tried to receive to know me as a kid. He just close himself in his room and never really interacted with me except to order me around. He never even ate meals with me at every. He was always so mad. I grew up in fear of him my whole life up until I was in middle school. I am also an only child. Its also fustrating, because he has been suffering from kidney failure since I was in fifth grade, and has been terminally sick since. (he has been doing dialysis at home since then and is now kidney-less) I have kidney disease as well, but he doesnt want me to go receive check ups for it. My mom had left the state and moved 450 miles away to live with her girlfriend that she met online from another country. She did this when I was seven years old, so I was without a mom for a year and a half. Since she has been back every these years, she has moved in with my grandparents in their apartment, because she cant afford to live on her possess, nor does she have the stability. She has been institutionalized three times since I was born. She was last committed when I was in eighth grade for 2 months. Last year, she threatened to kill my dad after she found out the stuff he did to me every these years. My grandparents tried to put her in an insitution but she refused. She even threatened to kill ME. Its fustrating b/c she doesnt do anything to help herself. She is supposed to take medication for depression, anxiety and high blood pressure, but she doesnt and has not in years. She had breast cancer when I was 6 years old and had a breast removed, but she doesnt receive checked at every. She hasnt been to the doctor in years. (Im now in college 1000 miles away from every this, but its still difficult) Its especially difficult with my dad's illness because he is always in and out of the hospital for his disease and its always a close death situation. I feel like im still searching for approval from my dad and his attention. Which is nice of what I even look when I am dating guys. I feel like sometimes dating guys and being close to them is trying to fill a void from my dad. my dad had such a difficult life. He was put in foster care at 11 months old and separated from his 8 siblings. He grew up in the inner city in poverty and his foster parents passed away by the time he was 16 so he was living on his possess as a teenager working two jobs to support himself. I think the fact that he had an absent dad (his dad left to amsterdam when my dad was born, and never came back), really affected him the relax of his life. I think this is part of why he found it so difficult to connect to me when I was growing up, because he never had a dad to do that to him. its not like im away from every this for good. I still arrive home for break and its back to the craziness. I cant escape its fustrating b/c sometimes my dad will be super sweet when I look him. Though he is awkward, its just very weird. Like he just changes like the drop of a cap. Its his mentall illness. So it makes me feel sorry for him and forgive him. Then he just goes back to his old ways. Its also frustrating b/c so many people just judge me and they dont know what I have had to deal with and still have to deal with.
7 Feb 2012, 8:56 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Is my childhood too horrible for me to forgive and forget? is this why am i so sensitive when people judge me?
So I grew up with my parents divorced. My mom left my dad when I was four because she came out of the closet as a lesbian. So she moved out. She is mentally sick (suffers from severe depression, anxiety, pyschosis, suicidal thoughts), and so I wasnt allowed to live with her. My dad was my custodial parent. However, he is mentally sick as well. (it took me 18 years to figure this out, because clearly he wont admit to it). When I was growing up my dad consistently ignored me and was incredibly strict. Obsessed with my success academically. He would make me do 100 math problems a day since I was five years old, and have me reading books 6-8 years over grade level when I was in elementary school. If I did not do the math problems that he assigned to me, he would beat me in the head with his hand or push me against the wall. When I was eating a meal and was too full to finish it, he would grab my neck and push the food down my throat. Sometimes he would take the light out of my room, lock me in and have me be stuck in there until the morning, without a meal. My dad would hti for me like the dumbest reasons. I was not a bad kid. I got great grades, was the star student, but he would consistently tell me I wasnt good enough etc. I wasnt allowed to have fun or anything. I was only allowed to sit in my room and do academic work every day long. (this would be on top of homework). Then he would make me practice violin for hours a day and if I didnt, I would receive punnished. My dad never tried to receive to know me as a kid. He just close himself in his room and never really interacted with me except to order me around. He never even ate meals with me at every. He was always so mad. I grew up in fear of him my whole life up until I was in middle school. I am also an only child. Its also fustrating, because he has been suffering from kidney failure since I was in fifth grade, and has been terminally sick since. (he has been doing dialysis at home since then and is now kidney-less) I have kidney disease as well, but he doesnt want me to go receive check ups for it. My mom had left the state and moved 450 miles away to live with her girlfriend that she met online from another country. She did this when I was seven years old, so I was without a mom for a year and a half. Since she has been back every these years, she has moved in with my grandparents in their apartment, because she cant afford to live on her possess, nor does she have the stability. She has been institutionalized three times since I was born. She was last committed when I was in eighth grade for 2 months. Last year, she threatened to kill my dad after she found out the stuff he did to me every these years. My grandparents tried to put her in an insitution but she refused. She even threatened to kill ME. Its fustrating b/c she doesnt do anything to help herself. She is supposed to take medication for depression, anxiety and high blood pressure, but she doesnt and has not in years. She had breast cancer when I was 6 years old and had a breast removed, but she doesnt receive checked at every. She hasnt been to the doctor in years. (Im now in college 1000 miles away from every this, but its still difficult) Its especially difficult with my dad's illness because he is always in and out of the hospital for his disease and its always a close death situation. I feel like im still searching for approval from my dad and his attention. Which is nice of what I even look when I am dating guys. I feel like sometimes dating guys and being close to them is trying to fill a void from my dad. my dad had such a difficult life. He was put in foster care at 11 months old and separated from his 8 siblings. He grew up in the inner city in poverty and his foster parents passed away by the time he was 16 so he was living on his possess as a teenager working two jobs to support himself. I think the fact that he had an absent dad (his dad left to amsterdam when my dad was born, and never came back), really affected him the relax of his life. I think this is part of why he found it so difficult to connect to me when I was growing up, because he never had a dad to do that to him. its not like im away from every this for good. I still arrive home for break and its back to the craziness. I cant escape it. its fustrating b/c sometimes my dad will be super sweet when I look him. Though he is awkward, its just very weird. Like he just changes like the drop of a cap. Its his mentall illness. So it makes me feel sorry for him and forgive him. Then he just goes back to his old ways. Its also frustrating b/c so many people just judge me and they dont know what I have had to deal with and still have to deal with.
7 Feb 2012, 8:54 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: a few questions about joining the military when you're a non-married mom?
I have a young daughter only 3 1/2. She's very attached to me and I know if I were gone for mons on end it's break her heart and mine. However just out of pure curiosity (I will NOT abandon my daughter to serve the country) how does it work? I talked to an army recruiter today at a job fair out of curiosity. I can look why ppl receive pulled in, but my questions are: ---I am not married...her dad and I are together and living together but we didn't do the whole marriage thing. (Baby wasn;t planned and he doesn't believe in marriage...cant make a horse drink) ---The recruiter told me that I either cannot join the army or I would have to either marry him or sign over my custodial rights to him or my mom/trusted family member....how does this work? What does this mean...that he could move to egypt without my consent? Say that I made it as far as the test and physical exam, and I already sign the big paper, would that mean that I either HAVE to receive married or sign over my rights, and I refuse to do either, would I be either disqualified or court-marshalled for backing out after I already signed? and say I did join, what if I had a breakdown about missing my daughter and decided it was a huge mistake, would I be discharged or worse, court-marshalled? And out of curiosity, for women who receive divorced by spouses while in military do you automatically lose custody of your child? Or can you resign due to stresses such as these?
7 Feb 2012, 11:47 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: American-German divorce help?
Ok, my wife is from Germany and I am from California. We were married about 6 months ago in Sacramento. Shortly there after we both realized that we were not right for each other and had rushed into it too quick. We took a break, yada yada yade. Now we've decided to receive a divorce. I am back in California with no plans to travel to her in Germany. Now for the tricky part. How do I serve her divorce papers? She has not registered her marriage with the German government (they make you register that nice of thing there). I have her address, will the courts accept it if I send her a certified letter? She speaks great English and shouldn't have a problem reading any of it. If not, who do I send it to? Thanks! We have no kids together, no debts, no assets, we never even shared an apartment together. She never had anything more than a tourist visa for America. Thanks again! Thank you very much....but how do I serve her the divorce papers??
7 Feb 2012, 11:44 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Does this couple have a chance?
My cousin was married for 5 years (has a 4yr old son) and is now divorced due to domestic violence by his ex husband,and other problems. A year after his divorce he began dating a lady and honestly they looked glad. They dated for about 2 years Well about two years later it occurred to my cousin she wanted to try again with his ex husband because according to her he's changed a lot or perhaps she was sleepy of feeling lonely, I don't know how but she convinced him to arrive back to her.. They dated for 5 months and 1 month later after he moved in with her and his son, she kicked him out of the home because she thought he was cheating on her with his ex girlfriend. Immediately she began dating a man that only lasted for about 6 mts. In the meantime, her ex husband went back to his ex girlfriend.. My cousin told me she found out he never really cheated and is now asking him for forgiveness and are currently dating every over again (the ex girlfriend left the vicious cycle). I ask myself...DO THEY REALLY HAVE A CHANCE? WOULDN'T THEY BRING UP THE PAST AND HURT EACH OTHER MORE? Any similar experiences?
7 Feb 2012, 11:23 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Is our marriage is fraud?
Hi I need some help. I am Filipina living in hongkong with my husband. Before we receive married he took a singleness certificate in Korea 2007 and he got it, then he went back to Philippines to help me out to receive a civil marriage license. We got married in front of my family, friends and his friends it's every perfect. But after 3 months when I got a visa to go to Korea I found his ex gf things and I found out his still married in UK and it makes my heart break and another thing is he lied to me by saying he told to his son that he is getting married (this is before we got married) I asked him again after 5 months and he said to me he didn't tell to his son that he is getting married. He can't divorce his wife because his gonna lose everything. And now I am trapped and don't know what to do! I adore him so much and it's killing me thinking about this everyday. If I go to UK for visit I might gonna hold at the airport and it's scares me. Every time he go to back in UK for his study he always carrying his wedding ring and the picture in his phone always changed from our picture to a nature or something. And when he came back to me I know if he had sex or not.
7 Feb 2012, 11:21 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: 14 year old taking medical marijuana and CPS?
I'm a 14 year old who suffers from extreme anxiety and depression. About a month ago I got a card from a doctor, (I live in CA) it has my name and everything on it, and so far its been the only thing that has ever really helped me. I've taking 11 different kinds of pills I think, which every make me sick, depressed, out of it or zombie-like in some way. The doctor said not to tell anyone about about it because it might cause problems, which it did. My counselor wanted to check up on my mom and I (No dad, divorced) and she mentioned the card. About a week later a lady shows up at the door and asks me questions and stuff. Now the adults and school and the social worker are saying that I should not be taking it, its not in my best interest and every this other BS. So now my mom is afraid that she can be taken to court and receive charged and I'll be taken away. So now I'm supposed to be taking this other pill, don't know what its called but I think it has oxy in the name, its supposed to be like xanax but not addictive, to treat my anxiety. About 30-40 minutes after taking it I felt dizzy, depressed, and later mad. Now after a week without the actual medicine, I'm back to having regular anxiety attacks, having extreme trouble even getting up in the morning, let alone going to class because I have so many anxiety attacks where I can't move or think or really do anything. I'm depressed and unmotivated, and now because I physically can't go to class apparently I might receive suspended for "defiance". I'm stuck in a circle then, because I obviously need my medicine, but I can't take it, which gets me in trouble with school and now CPS. I used to have an IEP, but my mom took it off because they wanted to keep me at this other school where the teachers and staff constantly verbally abused the kids, including me. Of course "Nooo that cant wouldnt never happen because we would know and its a safe school bla bla bla" is what they said, sooo. My question is, even though I have a card and obviously need it, can they actually just take that away and threaten to do every these things? Long read I know, sorry, but if anyone could give any insight it would be very much appreciated, even better with any links. Thanks. TL;DR: Im a minor with a MMJ card and now CPS is involved because of it. I cant take my medicine anymore. Are they allowed to just take it away and threaten me and my mom because of it?
7 Feb 2012, 11:12 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: abandoned reboundee in a relationship?
I wanted to look if anyone who has been a reboundee in a relationship felt and dealt with the loss. I met an incredible, beautiful lady who was 6 years older than me. We hit it off great and quick. Tons of passion as well as common interests and really enjoyed each others company. It lasted about 3 months. The issue was that this lady was recently divorced after 25 years of marriage. She had kids but they were in college, which was never an issue for me. She had been in a couple relationships during her separation phase and that I truly thought that she was ready to move on with me. Long story short, one day she came over and got the "We need to talk." She was still dealing with the divorce with the husband and sounded like she still wanted to be involved with one of the guys she previously dated. I was completely devasted. It caught me completely off guard and totally unhappy. It's been a few months and just still can't believe it. We seemed perfect together. I've reached out to her only a couple of times to give her space and have received no response in any form. It's just so weird to have the carpet pulled from right below me so swiftly and icy. I treated her extremely well and she would always say how great I made her feel and she would comment on how good I was to her and how sexy and attractive she thought I was and how she really liked me. Just a complete 180 by her has left me just devastated. I was really falling for her and it seemed she was really into me too. I know that she had mentioned one time that she seemed scared b/c she thought we were becoming too close too quickly. I assume that was because she was afraid of falling for someone so soon after her divorce. This was my first time being involved in a rebound relationship. For anyone who has been a rebounder or reboundee, what could be some of the reasons for her behavior and the sudden change of heart. How does something completely change in what seemed like an instant. I really feel this was a great lady, but I just can't wrap my brain around her behavior. Any comments or wisdom would be appreciated. After every this time I am still so unhappy and longing for closure after being left in the dust. I've dated other women and I just can't replicate anything close to that sort of chemistry. I would adore to receive back together with her and take it slow this time.
7 Feb 2012, 11:08 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: How do u make a good impression with your boyfriend's ex wife. (Divorced/4yr old involved)?
He is the adore of my life... I have never met the ex. I want her to like me.
7 Feb 2012, 11:07 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: once more, into the fray?
fucking seriously, "into the fray" what does it mean, how does it pertain to my life, my new, divorced after 27 years life?
7 Feb 2012, 10:58 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: What is wrong with this situation after divorce?
I have recently gone through a divorce, and I look my kids less often now. The past weekend, the kids were behaving horribly, and were extremely agitated. Our visit was clip short because of their moods and behaviors. I've been told that when kids are doing something wrong, there must be a consequence for their behaviors, so they will learn that what they are doing is not okay. The consequence is that there would be no more visiting that day. The next day when I went to their school, two of the kids were extremely icy with me. The oldest got very rigid, and the interaction was strained. The middle child, who was staying home from school sick, was as glad as a lark. The youngest said, "Mommy I dont want to play with you." A teacher said something like, Don't say that, that's not nice, and then he got happier and wanted to play, but it wasn't the same. Now that I am divorced, I dont receive to look my kids as often, and actually wish I could look them more, however, I don't want them to think that when they are with me they can do whatever they want and I wont do anything about it. They have learnt that they can receive away with anything with me, and if I tell them to cease, they just keep doing it, because after a while, they just lose interest in doing the bad stuff because I ignore it. But I want to have a relationship with them! I have no idea what to do.
7 Feb 2012, 10:54 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: these two girls in math?
I’m a junior in high school. In my AP Geometry class, I usually hang out with Nina (another junior) and Kaylee (a senior.) We’re not close, we only hang out in math, but we sit together and do classwork with each other. Not sure why that started, I guess since they’re hot, and fun to talk to. Plus I know they like me and think I’m cute. Sometimes we’ll talk to each other about personal things. Like I know Nina’s mom was an alcoholic and that Kaylee’s parents are divorced. And I know Kaylee isn’t a virgin, and both her and Nina have given bl*wjobs before. So I guess we trust each other. I nice of lied about how far I’d gone though. Not that I don’t trust them, but I’ve only ever made out with a girl, and I said I’d gone up to bl*wjobs, only because if I ever actually DO receive to hook up with one of them (or, who knows, both of them at once? A guy can dream….) I don’t want her to “take it slow” just because I’m inexperienced, lol. But like they flirt with me every the time, and I flirt back, it just never really goes anywhere. There’s no denying that Nina and Kaylee are sexy. They both have soft, shapely curves. Kaylee’s boobs are massive, and perfectly round. Nina’s legs are so nice and smooth… They look me checking them out every the time and don’t receive mad, but she’ll like like the attention, and tease me, saying if we weren’t in class, she’d flash me. They’ve both said that…and I think they meant it too…. Ok so neither of them dress skimpily, ever…except when Nina wears skirts. She likes to wear skirts cause, lets face it, her legs look lovely. But Kaylee, even with a chest like hers, still always wears modest clothing. So where is this gonna go? What’s the future of this, what’ll happen?
7 Feb 2012, 10:45 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Whats more enjoyable pre martial sex or marital sex.?
I think pre martial sex is way better! I am a happily divorced lady.
7 Feb 2012, 10:44 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Can I claim my daughter if she is 19?
My daughter lives with her mom. She is 19 and made less then $3000 last year. In mine and my ex-wife divorce it said that we were to take turns claiming her. Can I still claim her if she is 19?
7 Feb 2012, 10:42 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Can I still qualify for WIC even with my complicated situation?
I have a 2 month old son, I am married but my husband left me, and i live with my parents with 0 income and expected to pay rent. since i can not work because i have epilepsy, right now i can only to every household things. i cook for myself and son only and receive no financial assistance from my parents or my sons dad. i currently live in louisiana. Can i still qualify for WIC even if im not legally divorced and my husband makes over the guideline in income even though I do not receive any of it?
7 Feb 2012, 10:30 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Graduate School Personal Statement?
How personal should I receive in a personal statement when applying to grad school? I have a 2.99 GPA from community college (first 2 years) and a 3.85 from the school I transferred to for the last two years. A big factor for why my first two years of college went so poorly was that my dad was in prison for several months and I was trying to take care of my two younger siblings, which had me working 60 hours a week. When my dad got out of prison, my family was still very much in shambles and it was a very stressful situation. Additionally, I never received a high school diploma. I got my GED at 17 and went straight to college, but I had taken very little high school classes. And unfortunately, that gets even more complicated to explain. My parents were both addicts, and divorced, and I got bounced between the two of them, as well as other random adults, in an attempt to stay out of foster care. I moved so many times during my teen years that I hadn't accumulated more than a handful of credits. I was eventually kicked out of my last high school for not having a legal guardian in the district. I was told I either had to have someone adopt me, or pay a few grand to stay. I was sofa surfing and living out of a backpack at the time so that was nearly impossible. I want to essentially minimize the effect that my "early years" could have on my graduate school options. Until just recently I had never considered graduate school an option, and even obtaining a bachelor's degree impossible. But now that I've got that I'd really like to keep going. How much of this should I include, if any, in my personal statement?
7 Feb 2012, 10:23 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: my question is regarding second marriage by religion change.?
i am hindu married man from last 3 years & from last 11 months we r living separate. i want divorce from my first hindu wife to receive married another girl who is also hindu. but my first wife is not ready to give me divorce.if i file divorce in court then it takes 2-3 years of time so, can i change my religion to muslim to receive married to another hindu girl .can i allowed to do so by indian law? in short please give me suggestion on how to receive married without giving divorce to first wife.
7 Feb 2012, 10:12 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: How do i get rid of my bad reputaions?
Ok so i have this reputation of being a wealthy gossip girl who gets everything they want. But what people do not know i have a very low confidence and my parents got divorced which really hurt me. I hate this and i hate how people always judge me. How do i receive rid of this reputation?? Thanks Sara
7 Feb 2012, 10:10 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Do I literally have no luck?
Don't read the beginning and say, oh what a baby. It gets gradually worse. I am 17 technological problems: I've owned 3 xbox 360's, every new, every have broken within 4 months of getting them by the 4 red lights of death. Have had 2 new computers within the last 2 years. Both got infected with viruses. I did not go to any odd sites believe me. The difficult drives were fried. The first time i was able to keep some info on my back up steer. My second computer got a virus. difficult steer was dead. In a ditch effort to put the info onto my other back up difficult steer with the information from my last computer, i spilled orange juice on it frying it, losing every info from my old computer and my new one. I literally have years worth of movies, songs, pictures and documents gone. I got fired because of this. Physical, mental: Parents are divorced, live mainly with my mom. after i lost my job i got a new one. construction. I was finally bulking up and exercising and getting over my losses. I have a rare bone injury called pectus carintum. I had very little stamina because of it. I went to the doctor and he said part of my ribs and sternum were sticking into my lungs. I needed intense chest surgery. I was in the hospital for a month. Lost my job. I lost every my muscle. I was 180 when i went in and when i got out i was 135. And it was the summer of 2011 when i was in the hospital. I had the surgery in june. The day after i graduated the 11th grade. Half the summer i was in the hospital and the other half i was laying in my bed, recovering or barely eating because it was physical agony to move. The hole summer I did not physically look one pal and only left the home once. 6 months later i still can't do any chest or arm exercises. I cannot work either my doctor said till i'm healed. I took up running, trying to build up leg muscles, I was starting to atleast receive those built. I finally got a job, a stupid paper route, but it was a job. One day i was slowly riding down the sidewalk and the sun was in my eyes. Some guy backed up out of his driveway over my leg braking it and my bike that i saved up a month to receive. I was back in the hospital again for a broken leg and to receive new stitches on my chest because that accident broke open my wound. I currently can't exercise, have no job, xbox, computer, girlfriend or license. I have been to busy recovering, making up school and looking for work to receive my license. I do not have a car nor could afford one. College is right around the corner and have not applied. I can't afford one anyway. Just wondering if maybe God fvcking hates me? thoughts?
7 Feb 2012, 10:03 pm | click here to view more
Open Question: Need Help. Have a one year lease. Now roommate cant afford rent and her mom (cosigner) is broke as well.?
I know technically the property management company is responsible for a complete background check and so if there was something they overlooked it will be their fault for approving the cosigner. My roommate recently lost her financial aid which was to cover her rent and bills. Her mom which is our cosigner cant afford it either because of a huge mess (divorce, forclosure, yada yada) and now Im not sure what to do. I know I need to talk to my landlord ASAP. My mom who (rightly) refused to cosign for us is now the one being left to pay for her half since she supports me and obviously doesn't want this to affect my credit/rental history. I feel bad going to the landlord when the cosigner is already in a bad position as it is but I am not sure what else I can do. I dont want to continue living here making my mom pay the entire rent alone and its only been 3 months. Plus having to rely on being paid back is never fun. I cant have my roommate owing us thousands of dollars. I reeaaallly dont want to go thru court or lawyers. and Im pretty sure the company doesnt allow subletting. Man Im never going to sign a lease again...month to month for sure from now on. HELP.
7 Feb 2012, 10:00 pm | click here to view more
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